Want to transform your life? Stop chasing perfection


Give up the rat race, accept reality and have the courage to be disliked – the latest self-help trend is not about self-reinvention but finding contentment in the life you have

The problem is not that people are chasing perfection. The problem is that many people — myself included — do not have a concrete image of their goals. Many of us have “fuzzy ideals” like “to earn more money” or “to retire comfortably”, but these are imprecise.

By having a clear vision of where we want to be in 1, 5, and 10 years we need to be specific and have deadlines. Being specific means being willing to accept our own failures to achieve certain goals. We hate failure, so actively avoid it by using vague language.

One important thing to remember when setting goals is that plans can change and evolve over time. I was 12 years old when I clearly told my mother and step-father that I would live in Japan as an adult. The memory of that conversation is still pretty clear. Did I have a plan? No. Did I have a deadline? No. Fate just sort of had everything fall into alignment. That’s no way to live in the long-term 😕